Monday, October 29, 2012

Ruin is the road.


This will probably be a short one. It’s after midnight on Sunday night. I’m snuggled on the couch watching “Eat, Pray, Love” up way past my bedtime because I know that I’ll be working from home tomorrow. I’m not-so-eagerly anticipating Hurricane Sandy, which is supposed to drive through Washington tomorrow afternoon. I’ve heard mixed opinions on the severity of the storm. The forecast doesn’t look catastrophic, but the social media seems to think it’s going to be a big one. Either way, I’ve stockpiled a case of water and more junk food than I’ve ever had in this apartment at one time. (I also bought 4 apples and a container of watermelon chunks in an attempt to balance out my Whole Foods cart.) My bathtub is full of water in the event that we lose water pressure and can’t flush the toilet. Promptly after filling the bathtub, I realized I had no idea how to manually flush a toilet and spent the next 20 minutes watching demonstrative YouTube videos. I don’t own a flashlight, but I have dozens of candles and I bought a new lighter, so I’m hoping that will suffice. I also have several plastic packing bins stacked up in the corner, and I’m wondering if a power outage might be a slight blessing in encouraging me to start the brutal packing process I’ve been avoiding all weekend.

But after eating a burrito and peanut butter puffin cereal (you know, in case I don’t see unpackaged food for weeks), I parked it on the couch for an indulgent TV marathon. Two of my favorites were on tonight: Revenge and Keeping Up with the Kardashians. The, after scaring myself by watching the 11 p.m. weather coverage, I was flipping through the channels to find something easier to watch when I found this Julia Roberts favorite. I know a lot of people didn’t love the book because they found it whiny, indulgent, self-involved. I don’t disagree, it certainly was all of those things, but that’s just exactly why I loved it. I need stories about women pulling themselves out of sorrow-filled situations and finding joy and peace in simple and beautiful things. I love these stories, and I need these stories because I’m not an overly optimistic woman, and I frequently let myself get wrapped up in stress or misery or self-doubt without a logical plan to get myself out of it.

So tonight I’m watching Julia and thinking about all the beautiful work her character is doing in her life. One line in particular touched me tonight: “ruin is the road to transformation.” How lovely and true. Great ruin, those big, sloppy, gut-wrenching feelings that drop us to the very bottom are just the moments that can push us upright again. Sometimes we need to see the deepest, darkest moments to realize that we need transformation. However, my path to transformation is not always enlightened. Usually, in fact, it’s riddled with fights and tears and angry words that I don’t mean. It’s pieced together by oversleeping and over-caffeinating and over-eating. Let’s face it, I don’t have pretty transformation, which is especially annoying because when I think about transformation, I think about waking early and going on long walks while conversing with God. About going to yoga and eating salads and showering daily. I wish that were me. But that’s what I’m striving for in this “new” life that starts in just one week: a more beautiful transformation. A little more forgiveness, and little more attention paid to myself and those around me. And what a perfect season to work on this transformation than the beginning of the holiday season. November is a season for thanks and peace and reflecting on the beauty and challenges of the year before, and looking forward with hope and great expectations for the year to come.

So I’m watching this lovely movie and hoping that Hurricane Sandy is merciful on the East Coast this week. And hoping that I don’t eat myself entirely out of house and home.

To beautiful transformations,

Lia

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